Things you have to deal with when you stay friends with your Ex!

Well, the day Ranbir Kapoor and Deepika Padukone found their neutral ground with each other, every media platform got flooded with the 5, 10, 50, 1000 & infinite ways on how to be friends with your ex. Being friends with your ex is a new trend, and Bollywood celebs become idols.

Well, when each article on the web is talking about how to be friends with your ex, I wanted to tell the world what it feels like to be friends with him/her. How exactly you are going to feel when you are letting these points lead you your life:

1. It’s not easy to deal with their present partner

"We are best friends", "we can leave every issue aside and carry forward with the life,", "It's totally cool with me if he/she is dating someone else," -such lines are expected. But the fact is, having shared deep intimacy with someone and now watching the same person with someone else that close HURTS (in caps).

2. Getting to know the details from others

"We are good friends. We have moved on."

Hey Y, did you know WHAT your "X" was doing with this girl last night?

Y : * 2-minute silence*

Yeah, such conversations will be normal in your life and dealing with them would be as difficult.

Being friends might not kill your affection and feelings for them. Their secure connection with someone else is going to HURT YOU (again in caps). It's heartbreaking!

3. Being Physical

Sex is a basic need. Primarily, when you are with your ex. It's like an Ebola, tough to stop, and when one gets infected, it becomes impossible to find a stop. In the end, all you are left with is an awkward situation or a bad memory. Cure: Don't do it!!!! Not every "Friends with Benefits" story will end as Jamie and Dylan. 

4. Rehashing the past

No matter how hard you try, there will always be some situation when you will slap the past on each other’s face. “You are still the same”, “God, you haven't changed a bit”, “You are still holding onto that fight” —such quotes will pop up one way or the other.

5. Keep the hope on

All the care, love & affection you share in the friendship gives you back hope, that too, the false ones. Hope that one fine day, you two will be back together like “Break ke Baad Imran & Deepika”. You will create a fairytale-like the ones are in Nicolas Spark’s stories. These wrong indications will keep you distracted with all the good things that might have made your life better. No matter how much you convince yourself, but this will never let you move on.

I’m not saying all of it right. I am also not saying that being friends with your ex is wrong, and many people would have never faced the above situations. But that percentage is very less. I’m just saying that it’s not easy to leave your past and move forward, we think we can fix the negativity with the friendship-thing, but we always forget the simple law of mankind that- sometimes you only have to accept things, not to fix them.